And Why Love Is At The Center Of It All — Let’s get this out of the way: I’m a polyamorous person, and I got married. (Here’s an article about why I did it, in case you point your nose up at this idea. Please come back once your nose is back in my direction!) When my husband and I got…

On making space. I loved the forsythia that came with our house, and how could a person not? First, there’s that name, sounding like the villainess you root for in a dragon-fantasy novel. Then there’s the fact of forsythia’s yellowness: it’s a flowering shrub that can tower to twelve feet, and when it…

You Can Grieve Whatever You’re Grieving, However Small. It Doesn’t Make You Solipsistic. — Two weeks ago, I attempted to throw a party. Well, “party” isn’t really the right word. I had what I thought was a brilliant idea: I’d invite new parents to my house during a window of time that babies usually aren’t napping on a Saturday, I’d get huge bins and…

Leaving Your Twenties And Entering Mid-Life Gracefully Does Not Have To Be The End Of The World — In my twenties, my life was full of stories filled with twists and turns; sparkles; peaks and valleys. The stories in my mind take this shape: That’s right: The shape of a magnificent crystal with countless sides and edges and corners and (I’ll say it again because I’m not sure…

How to Game Your Own Psyche So You Can Get On With Your Life — I don’t mean to brag, but I’m a great storyteller. Primarily, my audience is myself. For example: if my partner is 10 minutes late, but is usually on time, and hasn’t texted me all day, and isn’t responding right now, THEY ARE DEFINITELY DEAD. I can come up with a…

And You Don’t Want to Try Polyamory Or Anything Like That — A few months ago, I wanted to start writing a new book, but I wasn’t sure how to begin. So I asked my colleague and mentor Jill if she would help me get it off the ground by being an accountability partner. Could I send her some writing every week…

Make Habits, Too, of Rest and Joy — I love my planner. I am one of those. I use the Passion Planner (which was developed by Angelia Trinidad, who turns out to be a really nice person on top of building a business around an object that I would go out of my way to save in a…

Can you get there without beating yourself up? — I was 23 when I liked a salad for the first time. And we’ll come back to that. The honeymoon phase of a New Year’s Resolution can be an incredibly happy and instructive time. Personally, I love the New Relationship Energy (NRE) that comes from setting and initially following through…

The science is clear: listen to your emotions. — Here’s a real question for you: how do you decide you’re sick enough to stay home from work? And if you’re someone whose job IS staying home and taking care of the infinity of things there are to take care of when you’re a parent or a home-maker, how do…